Sunday, October 31, 2010

New Blog!

Ok guys, I am moving my blog from Blogger to Wordpress. Pardon me for saying so myself, but the new blog looks pretty darn cool! You can check it out here. If you are signed up for my RSS feeds, you may already be receiving posts on the new blog. A friend of mine is helping me do this whole move and we are having to figure some things out as we go. Please be patient with me. Until everything is moved over, I will post on the new blog and put a link here each time. Oh, and since I'm over 38 weeks now, there is no telling when Baby Bug will grace us with her presence. I promise pictures will be posted very soon after, though!

Monday, October 25, 2010

I'm a Bad Blogger

Ok, I have been a very bad blogger. I haven't done a single Silly Saturday or Sacred Sunday in a LONG time. AAAAND I keep saying I'm gonna do this video rebuttal to the horribly misinformed Dr. Wiley. Here's the deal: I have tried. The thing is, I am terribly passionate about the subject matter and extremely hormonal at the moment. The combination? Not good. I keep trying to record an objective, fact-based and diplomatic message. Now, while the end product is absolutely factual, I cannot remain objective and diplomatic at the moment. I get heated and every single time I try it, I look back and say "Oh - that definitely won't make friends and influence people". So I figure that the best option at this point is to just blog about my own pregnancy and birth choices until the baby gets here and wait until my raging hormones even out to get back into the 'good fight' if you will. However, I also have some fun stuff I get to blog about in the mean time.

Episencial Review:
As I announced previously, I am going to be doing baby/mom/little kid product reviews. I just received my complete Episencial line of organic baby care products, compliments of the wonderful women at My Best Birth. I am hoping to give away some of their great products after completing the review, but I am waiting to hear back from the company, whom I emailed today.
I will say, I have high hopes for Episencial. Not only are the products made from completely natural and organic ingredients, they are also supposed to be perfect for extremely sensitive skin. Poor Stinkerbell has such skin and gets extremely irritated very easily. I have been using the fragrance free Burt's Bee's Baby Bee wash for a while now and I've been pleased with how it has worked, but this stuff smells delicious AND it's supposed to keep her skin happy.
And seriously -who can resist this precious packaging with the Very Hungry Caterpillar?


So I will be posting several different reviews for these products. The first will be after using it for about a week or so on Stinkerbell. The second will be about how it works for Baby Bug once she gets here. I think I'll give it a week or two of use for her as well. Then, I will do a final review about all the products. Stink's first Episencial bath will be tonight. It's a little alarming how excited I am to try these out...

Also, I am working on a rating system for my product reviews. I want to know - what categories are you interested in seeing quantitative reviews for? i.e. Ease of use - four stars, Price - three starts, etc. I would like to have about four or five standard categories to review on each product. Keep in mind, these will be almost exclusively products used for moms, babies and small children.

I'm also probably not going to use the standard 'stars'. So cliche and overdone! I am thinking I want to do something cute like baby faces or diapers or something, but I'm very open to suggestions. It will be a one to five scale, so obviously one baby face or diaper or heart or whatever is "I hated it" and five is "I want to swim/live in it".

So put in your two cents! Let me know what you want to see and hear on these reviews! I eagerly await your response!

Thursday, October 7, 2010

I Promise I Still Exist...

Ok, I have been MIA for a while, but honestly I was just so exhausted between Ina May, the Walk for Midwives, and I think there is something else... Oh yeah, being in the home stretch of growing a person! So I took some time off, but here we go again.

Check back tomorrow for a video entry I am recording tonight in response to a very misinformed article about midwifery posing risks to women. If I say more at this time, I will launch and not stop, so it's best I just save it up for the video...

Also, I have to say a great big THANK YOU to My Best Birth, as I won a complete line of Episencial all-natural, organic baby products in the Twitter party tonight! Score! I will, of course, post a review on these and, if I can get my hands on them, I would like to give some away... No promises, though. I have to secure the goods first! As soon as those babies hit my door, I am throwing Stinkerbell in the bath to try them out! After battling her very sensitive skin, I am hoping against hope that these do the trick. Can you tell I am excited?

Also, we are coming up towards 5,000 hits. If you are guessing that coincides with a giveaway - you are right! Details to come...

Other than that, I am now at 35 weeks and getting nesty. We are all getting ready to meet our little girl! The excitement in our house is truly palpable. Ah, I just can't wait to hold that sweet little bundle in my arms!

So that's what Frazz is up to. What about you?

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

So I walked for midwives, with a message written very clearly across my very pregnant belly. Let me tell you, I never expected such strong reactions! I expected some raised eyebrows and rolled eyes along with the hoorahs, but wow - talk about a split reaction! However, I never set out with the intent to upset anyone, just to make people go "Hmmm, what is such a big deal that she is willing to go to this length to get her point across?" I wanted to get people talking, but I thought those would be the people in the park, those who visit ABC's website and some of the folks on Facebook. I had no idea I would be in the newspaper and all over al.com! Wondering what all the fuss is about? Here it is. Some people absolutely love that I did this and they are cheering like it's fourth quarter and we are going for it on fourth and one. Some people are completely disgusted and some people are downright angry. My personal thoughts? I feel like the statements that were omitted from the article are of far greater importance. Everyone is perfectly entitled to their opinions and I don't hold the least bit of a grudge if you don't like what I did. It's totally your prerogative. But let's focus on the issues - or I did it all for naught.

Now, I do feel that most of what I said was left out and I want to get that message across loud and clear. Apparently, there are some obstetricians in town who took offense to my words, thinking that I was attacking them and the hospital. This is NOT the case at all. I just made clear that the hospital model of care was not the right choice for us and that we wanted to have options. I can see how it was a little unclear, so I am taking the opportunity to rectify this NOW. I don't want any venom shed on my family from my message being misunderstood and I certainly want only positive light shed on ABC itself!

Here is the full original text of the letter to the editor I wrote before having to condense it to 250 words:

In the article covering the Walk for Midwives on Sunday, there were some omissions from the interview I was a part of that are critical to the issue. I would like to take the opportunity to clarify what all was said, as I feel the article may have left some room for speculation.

First we must acknowledge that while I did state that I was unsatisfied with the birth of my first child, it was the disconnect between my personal desires for birth and the medical model of care that was the problem. Birth is intensely personal and individual to each family, and the model of care chosen by each family should reflect that. I had an obstetrician that I highly respect both as a physician and a person, who even showed up at nearly midnight when she wasn’t on call to deliver my baby. Though she was compassionate and respected my wishes, I learned that the hospital is simply not the right birth setting for me. The standard policies and procedures conflicted with my personal views on birth, but I want to make it clear that it was not a matter of abuse or neglect. I feel that the original article possibly left room for conjecture that I was being accusatory of the hospital and providers themselves, which was not the case. I was just personally disappointed in what the medical model of care had to offer. However, I have family members and close friends who are only comfortable with this model of care and would not feel comfortable choosing to birth anywhere but the hospital. This is what we are fighting for – options.

I also want it to be very clear that I was, and remain, highly complementary of obstetricians. They are essential to our health care system, but the current Alabama system places unfair demands upon them and the licensing of midwives is a benefit to everyone involved.

Obstetricians practice in possibly the most demanding medical specialty, and certainly the highest legal risk. It’s been said many times by obstetricians that “the one intervention or cesarean I didn’t do was the one I was sued for, but I’ve never been sued for taking action”. This is an unfortunate truth that forces their hands in even perfectly healthy, normally progressing deliveries to take action at minor “bumps in the road” if you will. The constant threat of lawsuit hangs over their heads, narrowing the definition of normal birth until almost no mother fits it and they are required to take action to avoid legal repercussions. This is extremely unfair to both the doctors and the patients as this leads to a host of unnecessary interventions, which is what many women wish to avoid. This puts the obstetricians in a difficult situation. Collaborative practice between doctors and midwives would relieve a great deal of this pressure. By allowing midwives to care for low risk women, which is the majority, obstetricians would have more time and energy to devote to the higher risk women who truly need their services, without having to attempt to be all things to all women. Women who wish to birth in an out-of-hospital setting could do so safely, with a licensed birth professional trained to handle minor emergencies and with ability to transfer them to a hospital and the care of physician in more critical situations – which, it is important to point out, are still rather rare in low-risk women employing the midwifery model. It would also open the doors to the implementation of both free-standing and hospital-adjacent birth centers where Certified Professional Midwives and Certified Nurse Midwives could deliver babies in a setting that provides a ‘happy medium’ between the hospital modality and home birth setting.

The biggest problem with the current situation in Alabama is that by refusing to license midwives we are actually perpetuating greater danger to those who wish to birth out of hospital. Alabama women are not going to simply give up, and by not having a standardization of credentialing, they risk falling victim to those who claim to be midwives, but lack proper training or certification. With no governing body, such as the Alabama Board of Nursing provides for nurses or the Alabama Medical Association provides for doctors, there is no regulation of midwifery care, despite its continued practice. Some women even risk driving to neighboring states that license midwives, risking giving birth en route with no access to emergency care if necessary. Even worse, many women are forced to birth at home unassisted, either out of lack of access to care in rural areas, or out of fear of hospitals with no alternatives. The greatest conundrum lies in the fact that while home birth itself is perfectly legal, employing the services of a licensed professional is not. This is creates highly unsafe situations. In a home birth setting a minor routine complication, such as a cord around the baby’s neck, could be easily resolved by an experienced midwife in mere moments. However, it could be disastrous or even fatal for someone with no training or knowledge of how to handle the situation. It’s also important to note that midwives carry emergency equipment and medications which they are well trained to use in order to handle a wide variety of situations, further making them a very safe and practical alternative. Licensure of Certified Professional Midwives and the slackening of the unrealistic restraints placed on Certified Nurse Midwives would be a welcome and needed resolution to all of these issues, while providing the doctors with a reprieve in their overextended schedules.

The ultimate goal is a system in which doctors and midwives can work collaboratively to provide the best care and birth options for the women of Alabama. These systems are implemented all over the world with great success for both the health of the mothers and babies. They also reduce the financial burdens on many families and even benefit insurance companies, as the cost of midwifery care is significantly lower than obstetrical care. Also, over time this would, as it has in many other states and countries, actually improve birth outcomes for both mothers and babies, potentially lowering the currently outrageous malpractice insurance premiums for obstetricians, further driving down the cost of obstetrical care.

The state of Alabama provides its citizens with excellent, evidence based care in almost every other area of medicine. Isn’t it high time that we examined the evidence and made the decision to join the ranks of other states licensing midwives and reaping the benefits? It’s both a health care and financial win-win situation.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

It's always interesting to find out how other people view you. Apparently, folks are kinda on edge today, so I will choose my words a little more carefully than usual.

I will begin by clarifying some things about myself:
1. I am extremely supportive of natural birth and midwifery.
2. I was too damn stubborn to listen and learn with my first child and wound up with a birth experience I have no desire to duplicate.
3. I am a huge breastfeeding proponent.
4. I had to quit nursing my daughter at four months because I had wildly out of control migraines - like, every single day.
5. It's my own stubborness and poor choices that lead to most of my parenting screw ups.
6. Most of what I am passionate about comes from learning from my past mistakes!

I am an extremely passionate person. I stand up for what I believe and it's made me both friends and enemies. I can usually guess when the heat is coming, as I am pretty accustomed to it by now! But, sometimes it just takes you by surprise. It sure did today!

I was reading some of the scathing retorts I saw about a pretty simple 'Huzzah" for breastfeeding I posted on Facebook after I got completely freaked about a formula recall. From those comments and status updates, I got the impression that people apparently think I am this self-righteous, militant (no seriously, that word was used) woman who believes that all mothers who birth with medication or formula feed their babies are terrible mothers. To that I say...What?!?!

Let's start with birth:
I believe that modern obstetrics certainly have their place - I have a friend who had severe sudden onset preeclampsia and most likely would have died along with her baby without modern obstetric medicine. I also know women with severe conditions like Lupus and Multiple Sclerosis who wouldn't have made it if it weren't for their very well trained OB's. I have a friend who just has the tiniest little pelvis that refused to move for her baby to be born. I have a friend whose baby was transverse breech and would NOT turn. I thank God that we have the ability to save those mothers and babies today!
HOWEVER
I also know that most of the 'complications' dealt with on an L&D unit on a daily basis are really iatrogenic, meaning that all of our medical advances actually caused the problem in the first place. Any medication, given without the need for it, can be extremely dangerous. For instance, we don't give people with healthy hearts medication for arrhythmia. It could kill them! So why do we give healthy moms medications to induce labors when there is no complication? Why do we perform cesareans on moms who don't need them? That's my vice!
As for me, I prepared for a very natural birth and wound up giving into a very medical one. I have great respect for my doctor as a physician, but my birth experience was just a disaster. I decided that maybe I should have listened more in birth class rather than argue. This time around I have done just that. I am also going into this birth less afraid and much better prepared. Yes it is my second child, but allowing myself to learn from my mistakes rather than get defensive is the most important difference.

Now, on to breastfeeding:
Breast is best. Period. End of story.
HOWEVER:
I know people who are unable to breastfeed because they have to be on certain medications that pass through to breast milk and could be very dangerous to the baby. I know women who have never made an ounce of breast milk. I know women who have had health conditions of all kinds that have made breastfeeding extremely difficult or even impossible. But they aren't the norm. Most women can breastfeed very well, though it might be difficult for a while. And it's not made any easier by the myths out there that even some doctors will perpetuate. I mean, where do you turn for the right information? It's a tough deal, to be sure! But I feel that barring true medical barriers, every woman should absolutely give this their very best effort!
I will admit up front that I really do have a hard time hearing that this one is a 'choice'. However, I feel like a big part of the reason some women don't breastfeed is fear. It's strange to them, which is no wonder in our culture. Boobs are completely sexual to Americans for some reason and we have forgotten their primary purpose. It freaks some women out for that very reason, but I really feel that as a nation we have to help our mothers overcome this stigma to give their babies what is best for them.
I also know some women just flat out don't want to try. This one really bothers me. I can't imagine not giving my child what is best for them because it's too inconvenient! I just can't go with you on that one. If you feel the need to never read my blog again or defriend me or whatever, go ahead. I am sorry if you feel that way, but this is just my heart coming out and being very truthful
The biggest thing with breastfeeding is it actually hurts my heart to know what those mothers miss out on. It was the single most wonderful experience of my life and I wish it for every mother and child. I feel that I probably gave up too soon without really seeking the right help. It just got hard and I quit. Man, that feels pretty lousy! But rather than being angry with women who pushed breastfeeding and weren't afraid to tell the truth, I decided to shut my mouth for once to listen and learn. It's amazing how that changed my life!

Now, I know that women get EXTREMELY defensive about their choices as mothers. I'm a mom so I totally get that. However, the toughest lesson I have ever had was that sometimes you just have to get off of the defensive long enough to learn something. If I had been willing to do that before Stinkerbell was born, I believe so much would have been different. I certainly don't strive to upset anyone and Lord knows I am not saying that I am so great because of what I believe. I've screwed up A LOT as a mom! That's probably why the comments telling me to "get off my high horse" or that I "think I'm so much better of a mother" really get me. I am passionate because I believe I have made such big mistakes! I am just learning from other women who are FAR better than me and trying to emulate it in my own life in a way that works for me and my family. I want more than anything for all mothers to have access to information I wish I had been privy to - and listened to - years ago. Learning from my own mistakes is why and how I came to where I am today.
However, if you get truly offended at what I have to say, this is your fair warning - I don't plan on being quiet! I will certainly try to be judicious with how I say what I have to say, but censoring my passionate beliefs just will not happen.

"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't."
~Eleanor Roosevelt